Wisdom Counselling

RETIREMENT    After many years of counselling I have now retired (from counselling that is). (As of November 2025)

Recommended Counsellors:

For individual counselling:

Shannon Wallace

Mindful Momentum Counselling

Website: www.mindfulmomentum.co.nz

Cell: 022 361 6067

For Living Wisdom style and couples counselling:

David Riddell

Living Wisdom

Website: www.livingwisdom.co.nz

Phone: 03 547 4386

A few insights from Karl Jung:

• "The world is full of people suffering from the effects of their own unlived life."  Jung argued that ignoring your true nature, values, or potential is a form of self-sabotage. He noted that people suffer deeply from complying with an artificial version of themselves. 

• "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."   Jung famously explained that when we refuse to look at our inner issues or hidden patterns, we blindly let them control us. By staying unaware, we actively participate in creating our own "bad luck".

• "Man must recognize his complicity in the act of evil."  Jung wrote extensively about how individuals must recognize their own capacity for dark or destructive behavior (the Shadow) rather than projecting it onto the world, or others.  It is the kind of blame mentality, or pretend-victimhood I have seen extensively in the Christian mindset that has submitted itself to beliefs, and just goes along with the flow. It is too conditioned to think for self and challenge anything that is not in alignment with reality. And so another world of automatic-complicity is entered, and while they 'believe' they are 'saved', they are deeply lost to reality. (Interested? Read the book Groupthink by Mr Christopher Booker)

• "The crises you are enduring are in truth an alarm bell. The old version of yourself has exhausted its purpose for survival, and it must die... if you wish to return to yourself."    If the quote you remembered had a sense of urgency about stopping a downward trend or breaking a cycle of misery, it aligns perfectly with Jung's concept of individuation. He believed the ego often has to let its current, toxic structure collapse so a healthy person can emerge.

Reading: Over the years I have produced various sheets of reading on specific subjects. Some of these are below with links to the Insights pages. I hope they may be of help to you. Some are for individual use and some for couples.

Topics of Interest

💡 “Faith Deconstruction”
This new sheet (2026) is for those that have been mentally / emotionally / spiritually abused by Christianity. It is about completely re-examining what was programmed into you by others, and the bumpy journey that can be expected in deconstructing the toxic beliefs and forming a new and safe place for your mind.
Feel free to share it — just retain the copyright note.
👉 Faith Deconstruction

💡 “Me & Myself”
This sheet explores the concept of Self-Worth, Self-Value, Confidence, Individuation, and other aspects of the Self-Concept.
Though originally created for teenagers, it's proven helpful for adults and pre-teens as well.
Feel free to share it — just retain the copyright note.
👉 Me & My Self 

💡 Is There a Cure for Depression?
Depression is often misunderstood.
At Wisdom Counselling / Living Wisdom, we identify six types of depression — only one is bio-chemical. The other five relate to life challenges and can be addressed through good counselling.
👉 Is there a cure for Depression 

💡 Triangulation
 If you are having issues with a group, organisation, employer, charity or church, one that may be of particular help is triangulation. If you are a leader in an organisation and do not understand this subject, when trouble comes, as it does when leading people, you will most likely be in deep trouble!
👉Triangulation

💡 Thinking that causes Depression & Anxiety

Here are 10 ways of thinking that can cause Depression and Anxiety. Faulty thinking causes faulty feelings.
👉Thinking that causes Depression & Anxiety

💡 Panic and Anxiety

Panic attacks and anxiety are not fun. The good news is that the brain can be trained to stay calm again.
👉Panic and Anxiety

💡Choosing a Partner

Choosing a suitable partner is a challenging thing, and one of the most important tasks in life. If you want to avoid messing your life up, choose very carefully!  Here are some wise words to help you along the way.
👉Choosing a Partner

💡Setting Boundaries

If you don't have this crucial life-skill then you won't be able to say "NO", and you will be used and abused. Sad but true. Have you had enough yet?
👉Setting Boundaries

💡Relationship Reality Checkup

Here is a check-up for relationships.  You can score yourselves on each point on a 0-5 basis. 0=not me/them and 5=Oh dear this rings true.
👉Relationship Reality Checkup